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Acupuncture — Ahhhhh

When the acupuncture needle goes into the sore spot in the back of your neck, and it quivers like Jello briefly, and you feel as if a bolt of lightning just flashed through you, it means, according to my acupuncturist, two things.

  1. I was in a great deal of pain.
  2. He hit the right spot.

And, just for the record, by the way, the needles do not hurt. Acupuncture actually feels relaxing, and almost euphoric. The needles are not pointed and sharp. They go in easily [Read more →]

13 Things (My 6th) to Do Before You Walk Out the Door For Vacation

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(Logo, courtesy of Teamouse.)

Men, when you’re standing at the back door with the car running, trying to get a jump on the traffic, and she’s still in the house doing “whatever” it is she is doing. This is what she’s doing. Grab a number and go help her. And ladies, here’s a checklist to help keep you sane while he’s rushing you to get on the road. If you don’t want to come home to a smelly house – you’ll need to plan ahead a little bit.

  1. Go through your pile of library books and return them. While you’re there, check out some new books for you (and kids) to read. Don’t forget audio books for long car rides. Don’t forget to return DVDs to Blockbuster.
  2. Set up your e-mail account to an “out ” message.
  3. Hold Mail and newspapers. Pay bills that will be due while gone.
  4. Arrange lights or radio to turn on periodically with a timer.
  5. Lock your freezer. (Upright models) and put the key on top of the freezer so someone can find it.
  6. Make arrangements for a neighbor or friend to have a key to your house or apartment – or at least know where one is. Give them a number where you can be reached.
  7. THE NEXT ONES ARE LAST MINUTE: LAST ONE OUT THE DOOR — Pour some baking soda into each of the

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One Word Meme

Mountain Mama, who was tagged by Sara, tagged me for a new meme. Easy. One word for each item. Mountain Mama did it with grace. Here’s my shot.

  1. Where is your cell phone? MudRoom
  2. Relationship? Nice
  3. Your hair? Awesome (Haircut today.)
  4. Work? Overwhelming (housework)
  5. Your sister? None
  6. Your favorite thing? My son’s eyes.
  7. Your dream last night? Italy (Eat, Pray, Love)
  8. Your favorite drink? Ice Water — I really do love the taste
  9. Your dream car? Mercedes Benz
  10. The room you’re in? Guest Room
  11. Your shoes? Tevas

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One of my favorite things about blogging

Visiting this post, loving it, and then, and finding out you’re in it.

I’m Bored

Did I miss a class or something? I have no idea what to do with my boys all day. I know bored is good. In fact, my parenting guru says that whenever her boys would say, “I’m bored”, she would calmly answer, “I wonder what you’ll think of to do.” And there are plenty of books, The Overachievers: The Secret Lives of Driven Kids, to show us how important free time is to children today.

However, it’s a big house, and they’re falling into an easy routine of TV and video games — which isn’t really allowed, and requires constant monitoring on my behalf. Falling into the habit of TV and video games cuts off the opportunities that boredom brings, and prevents the gifts outlined in Power of Play. So, when that doesn’t work, one in particular, works to [Read more →]

The Everyday Stuff: Here Lies Your Treasure

Shelly asked a big question. Do you have a brand for your blog? Seth expects us to have a brand — one clear message. He says if you don’t have a blog, you should because: “(W)hat if there’s just one thing you need to say, but you can say it clearly and well and in a way that hasn’t been said before? … And, you’re willing to update that post as you learn more and gain more insight.”

As a student of literature, one of my favorite writers was John McPhee. He wrote provocative non-fictional essays on basic ordinary things– like basketball, ships and physics — with a distinctive, unusual vantage point. He made topics I wasn’t interested in interesting. A death, the study of spirituality and yoga soon revealed to me that it is precisely those ordinary moments that McPhee extracts in his writing that teaches us to live in the present. We don’t remember the number of presents we unwrapped on Christmas morning; we remember the smell of the cinnamon rolls. Our lives are made up of the simple ordinary events that are unplanned, but they can make a profound impact on our lives.

But if we don’t pay attention, and not celebrate the ordinary, we may miss our greatest opportunities for joy. This is the brand of my blog. The everyday simple events of life are highlighted here. I’m using the raw materials I’ve been given — like my four boys, my husband, and the things I do daily to do it — it’s all I have to work with right now. I love making you cry. I love making you laugh. None of these events were planned or created. I’m showing you that there are ordinary moments to cherish right under your nose everyday. Catch them before they pass. Here lies your treasure.

Here’s an ordinary moment — his first day of preschool — a simple 2 minute video. It’s been sitting in my camera for 9 months. It took me no more than twenty minutes to pull it out, add the song, and turn it into a source of giggles to the boys in the house. What’s so special about this? For one entire year, he stared longingly at this train table, while we dropped off his brother into this very room. Not his turn — not this year. But now, it is his year. Can you imagine his joy? Full to bursting that he was not “just going along for the ride” while I dropped off yet another brother to a cool place with trains? To actually be the one who is dropped off? It’s his moment. I had to capture this. So, here it is, courtesy of You Tube.

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More on brands. Here are some of my favorite blogs — they are focused on one thing — and that’s precisely what makes them so great. RisingRainbow is focused on one thing — Arabian Horses. UTheGuru is a perfect example of a great blog purely focused on a single mission to help Wordpress Bloggers. Paris Daily Photo does this beautifully. And yet, again, I refer to Strumpette. (OK, maybe Strumpette has two messages.) Gift of Green is a beautiful example of just one message, one post at a time, in a unique way. Family Matters serves the spiritual needs of parents — it’s not just another how-to parenting manual. Mommy Cooks is one that captures it all in the title. What would be your brand, if you had a blog?

This thing with my neck

Because I refuse to post pictures of the bruises on my neck on the internet, I will show you what my pain feels like. My smallest son does a good job of conveying my sensory feelings right now.

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I didn’t write about this when it started two weeks ago, because I thought it would be over by now. It’s not, and in fact, I now have bruises on my neck and shoulder as a result of this pain in the neck. Yeah, you should see me explaining this one.

All year, I’ve had severe neck aches come and go. Nothing like Biofreeze to get the kinks out. (They have roll-on now — it’s awesome for those hard-to-reach-shoulder blades.) But two weeks ago, when I was busy working on my computer on my blog code for 5 hours, [Read more →]

The Secret, Diet Soda, and $1,000,000

If you drink diet soft drinks, it means your overweight. I don’t want to offend anyone — that was just what I thought when I was a little girl. The people I saw drinking diet soft drinks were overweight — always. I was suspicious — I figured that the drink company put something in the drink to keep people overweight, so that they’d have to keep drinking it. To this day, I still don’t like the taste of diet soft drinks.

In fact, after watching The Secret, I know I was right. Except they weren’t putting “something” in the drink itself — they were putting it on the label. Yes — they were putting the word diet on the label. Based on the law of attraction — you get what you focus on. So, seeing the word “diet” attracts the drinker to always think diet — hence to always need to diet.

Despite all the people who do complain about the movie, The Secret, does a terrific job of collecting all of the new-age Quantum Physics theories, and compiling them in one source. It’s entertaining, and my kids liked it — and they learned from it.

If you take anything away from the film, let it be this: You get more of what you focus on. If you complain about your co-workers, you get more things to complain about. If you focus on getting out of debt — you get more debt. You drink diet drinks — you get, well you know. (Try water.)

But, let’s take it one step deeper. What if I just decided that I would earn $1,000,000 this year? It’s possible, as long as I [Read more →]

I think he’s ready for college

He woke before the rest of us.

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He made his own breakfast without asking help from any of us.

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The Boys In the Creek

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I Don’t Mean For This to be Sad …

What is it like to be there when someone dies? Death, just like birth, is a profound experience that is mysterious. I talked to a friend, who is a doctor, hoping he could shed some scientific light on what I experienced, and put it into concrete black and white terms. But instead he said that out of the hundreds of deaths he’s wittnessed, they are all profound. He said there is definitely another presence in the room whenever someone comes into or out of this world.

Today marks the second year anniversary of her death. I was with her when she died, and it was the first time I had ever experienced death. It was peaceful and it was joyful.

After over 20 days in ICU on a ventilator, I had not seen my Mother open her eyes or speak. (Although, my brother did, for a few brief moments about 3 days before her death.) I never doubted in my mind that she would live – it was just taking her an awfully long time to get better.

On June 19, her doctor said she was doing so well, they were arranging long-term care for her. Despite the good news, her vital signs showed a dramatic downturn on the 19th. It was so dramatic, that the nurses assumed it was a miscalculation. But, that day, I got a bad feeling that I could not shake. I had this terrible sense of foreboding that life was going to bring me a change I did not want. I want to the hospital late, around 10 p.m [Read more →]

Summer Solstice

Today is the first day of summer, the longest day of the year. The day inspiredsun.jpg Shakespeare’s “Midsummer Night’s Dream. ” And, did you know that because it also marks a turning point of the days growing shorter, it is associated with the exile of Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden? Midsummer Eve has long been associated with faeries and magic. On this night you’re supposed to be able to see faeries, as the veil between the worlds is thinned.

Today, the Earth’s North Pole is tilted closet to the sun; also the day the Sun reaches its highest point in the sky. As the summer solstice approaches, the noonday sun rises higher and higher in the sky on each successive day. On the day of the solstice, it rises an imperceptible amount, compared to the day before. In this sense, it “stands still.”

In Europe, religious groups gather to dance, drum and chant at Stonehenge, a 4,000-year-old stone structure in England. I love to look at Pagan traditions to see [Read more →]